Had round 2 of pre mediation discussions, almost agreed on most points. H has been upbeat, friendly and happy because he is almost seeing the end of the MR. it is unsettling to see how pumped up he is but I am doing a good job of not showing it. He initiated the talks again I - what have you decided about Xxx? H - let us split it post D next year, it is too inconvenient for me right now. I - I do not want to own anything jointly after this, please ensure it is done. H - You are torturing me with this, I am not an a$$hole who is going to screw you over, I will sort it out next year. I - I am not willing to proceed unless you sort it out, I need the guarantee for the kids H - I am not abandoning kids, dont know why you have started believing that. even in future when we go to home country, we will have to do it together. I - I do not see why we need to do anything together H - because you cannot manage otherwise, you are putting more pressure on me with this xxx now. you have it easy, I am the one leaving home, I have to buy new stuff, nothing is changing for you. My face must have conveyed my disbelief or whatever he read. H - ofcourse other than i leaving I - you are free to take whatever you want from here, I am not in your way. But please sort out xxx before any finalizing, I do not want to own anything jointly. Most of the convo was pleasant, to the point. He is making convo at home about kids and other small things has also started packing his things slowly. Is the convo above DBing, or am I giving more of a I do not give a darn attitude? Is standing my ground on a few things ok with DB, although D in my case seems to be lurking its ugly head round the corner I still have my boxing gloves on to beat it in the face.
