You cannot help her, man. She is going to do what she is going to do. You are NOT responsible if she hurts herself, you are NOT to blame in any way. You should NOT reach out to her family other than to respond cordially if they reach out to you. You are making things matter in your mind that DO NOT matter the way you are convincing yourself they do. BACK OFF. Focus on you and your kids. Period.
You are making things so much worse for yourself than they need to be. I do understand you love her and miss her and everything else that goes along with this horrible experience. But it is OUT OF YOUR CONTROL. You are going to drive yourself crazy with thinking you can do anything about this whatsoever. You can only work on you and be the best you and the best father you can be. That is literally all you can do. Your W will come around, or she will not. You ARE going to be okay either way! Believe it!
M: 40 W: 37 T: 20 MR: 13 S13, S9, S4 BD: 1/29/18 Sep: 4/23/18 (I moved out) 8/24/18 I come home, she moves out
If you want to get out of the hole, drop the shovel.
