Battling cancer while dealing with MLC

[Gerda]

JujuB, I totally get and respect that you disagree, most people around these parts do. My outlook is based on staying close to Christ and I know it sounds very radical if you are not guided by that same thing. Of course none of our MLCers deserve mercy, forgiveness, kindness, etc. And our offering those things may not change anything about them. I give those things when I am able to not to change my H or my circumstances but out of obedience to God, and it's often against my own will that I do it. But in doing so, I have found a freedom from the slavery of anger, bitterness and even some the suffering. I do it for God but in return He gives me a peace I have not found any other way. I think going dark can be a very loving act, and very necessary, don't get me wrong. But when an encounter occurs for whatever reason, there is a huge freedom, joy and peace in loving your enemy, even if you used to call him your H and especially when he destroyed your life. I know that that sounds crazy if you don't have the same belief, but I want to make sure it was clear that I didn't write those things above with the idea that it will change anything in River's MLCer. My MLCer also doesn't deserve any kindness, he deserves severe punishment! But my faith in God tells me that's when giving love and trying to forgive helps me stay closer to God; and when I do it, that's exactly what happens, I feel a huge comforting presence settle in my heart. That hasn't changed my H yet, I am on year five. But more convinced than ever that it's the only path toward freedom for myself, no matter what my H does. So I stick by my post above! Hugs to you both!