Its such a complicated sitch(like many im sure). My wife previously expressed to my mothed thG shs contemplated suicide in college because oc depression. And recently she told me that she just bought extra life ins in case all the stress kills her. She,doesnt seemed stressed when shes meeting him at bars and texting constantly.
Yes, im worried that when this all comes out shs could potentially try something. Im also concerned about about being able to trust my wife in any shape or form. Shes been lying to me like crazy and threatened to have my arrested oved the mbr issue. And given her reckless behavior i feel thd need to let her father know. He would be so angry with me if he finds out that i knew about this all along. Shes almost killed herself a couple times in the last year, drinking n driving, choking on vomit, etc.
I go back n forth on this because i have let her go and dont want to show anything where im trying to influence/control her. But this isnt about that. This is about putting family first, including my kids. I was absolutely devastated yesterday listening to my 18 year old daughter burst into tears because she fears that my wifes issues could be genetics and that she will suffer the same like her mother. I cant tell you how much that bothered me.
Yes, my wife will do whatever she wants. And eventually she will crash. But my kids and i are going to bare the brunt of all this and the last thing we need is for my inlaws to hate me for not letting them know their daughter went completely off the rails. If my wife hates me even more or if it pushes her more into his arms, so be it. I cant concern myself with that. My whole outlook on potentially reconciling has changes after learning that she has basically been living a double life for the last couple years at least. And the sad thing....i really loved this girl! We had something really special, an energy that i never felt before. But now its gone!!!!
