Going the Distance (Saying ILY Pt. 6)

[mtb1981]

Steve I am leaving our discussion on victimhood for the moment as it would be useful on the abuse thread.

MTB WW is decompensating very quickly.

Let her. You only have anecdotal evidence that she is accusing you of things. That's not good at all.

Let her fall as far as she needs to. Let others report her for damaging stuff. It would be useful though to have short written statements that she us saying these things. Then it isn't hearsay but witnessed.

WW is what is known in the trade as a reactive compulsive. In layman speak bat shite crazy loco. She won't be able to hold her stuff together. And you aren't seeing her, she isn't visiting the house.

I do recommend keeping a daily diary.

She says you hit her? When exactly?

Oh you were in Tolado that day? Or shopping at Wal-Mart, here is the receipt!

Buy stuff even small items on debit or credit cards. Need gum? Pay by card? Cup of coffee? Card. Send an email, make a phone call (tower pin point), anything that proves where you are.

It's painful but gracious it works.

It's going to be ok, she already shot herself in one foot, now here comes the next bullet.

She is desperate for attention. All it takes now is OM finding another's WW to drop her knickers, then she is fully exposed. (So to speak)

It's so sad, but stay strong for your kids.

V

Thanks, V...

I do not plan on reporting anything. I stay out of anything that concerns her. I don't want to have anything to do with it, and if I did, she would twist things around. It doesn't directly affect me or the kids, so I leave it alone...

I have been documenting her interactions (or rather lack thereof) with the kids, but I do not have a daily diary of what I am doing. That would probably be a good idea. The problem with having proof of me not being around during the accusations is a little tough. She mostly claims that I show up at her house in the middle of the night and do these things. I have made it a habit of using my phone late night while at the house though. I'm always at home sleeping when these things supposedly occur...

You are right. She is desperate for attention. There may be multiple OM's for all I know. One thing I do know is that the original OM is known to be a "player" and is always trying to hook up with women. W is aware of this, but still sniffs around him all the time. It doesn't seem to bother her. She seems to be emotionally obsessed with him. Oh well, she's his problem now. She was actually banned again from the brewery he works at a few days ago. My friend is the head chef there and was telling the owner/manager that she was the one that broke his windshiel and was up at the bar spewing nonsense. Owner didn't like it one bit and doesn't want her around creating drama, especially because OM is the bartender. It's bad for business...