It seems very conflicting. She says I was emotionally abusive which I was to an extent. More of it was issues I needed to work on that I blamed her for. Relied on her for happiness etc. She is extremely sensitive which is ok... anyway she is recovering from this emotional abuse. I am working on myself.

So what seems to work is being nice, kind. The I hope you have a nice night texts. Waiting for her to text me but then responding nicely. Supportive, caring etc. Cool, calm, distant not saying much but definitely not ignoring her.

This seems kind of opposite of what some people say works.

Do what works, right? Occasional supportive text to show I care... but the taking away her safety net and having her pursue me is what I really want. Advice? Do what works, right? Or commit to not being there for her so much and see if she comes to me- LRT?

H: 33 W:32
M: 5 T: 8
D: 4
BD: 6/2017
MO: 6/2017
House sold: 6/28/18
W wants to build friendship / relationship- 9/18
Paying $ support since 7/18.
Physical Reconnect- 10/18
W Starts- IC / MC - 10/18