Fmly1st, I also wrote about my concern about my husband committing suicide on my thread. It's hard when you love someone so much and you want to help them. Unfortunately when they eliminate you from their lives then your involvement will push them closer towards instability rather than bring them back. I discreetly asked one of my husband's colleagues who I trust, and who knows our situation, to contact me if she notices any erratic or suicidal behavior prior to when I moved away from my husband's city. If she had ever contacted me I'd then contact my husband's family or friends and I wouldn't get involved. Maybe that was the wrong thing to do. It probably was, but other than that I've been kind, cooperative, and emotionally stable around my husband to avoid aggravating him and that's probably as much as I can do. It's likely to be the same for you - if you remove yourself from the marriage but remain kind and cooperative then your wife will do what she wants to do but she can't blame you and you can't blame yourself. When she gets to the point where she realizes she destroyed her life then hopefully she'll reach out to you at that time and will be motivated to change and reconcile. What I'm trying to accept is that there's a process these spouses need to go through before it'd even be possible to start reconciling with them and unfortunately there's nothing we can do about it. In the meantime it sounds like you're a wonderful father and you yourself may benefit from venturing out and making new friends and strengthening your relationships with whoever is close in your own family - it's not as good as having your wife but I'm sure others who care about you will want to support you during this hard time.
