Sorry you are going through this but believe me things will get much easier after she move and things settle down. I got some relief from the insanity and peace. It is also the next step towards whatever outcome you may have. Great job ignoring her super dad comment! My x too would be excited to show me places
I like your book selection and agree with Gordie to try to mix something else in. I thought I would mention 5LLs is on audiobook and also there is a 5LL for Kids (for adults). I wish I could help more with the kids but hopefully someone with tweens can. I can say to make sure they always feel loved and safe with you. You will be their rock through this and you will see them bond with you in a new way. Keep up the good work, you are handling this well.
