Battling cancer while dealing with MLC

[JujuB]

It doesnt matter what title you give him.

His behavior is really really selfish and irresponsible and callous amd sociopathic

I think he knows how bad it makes HIM look if someone was to see that he was even capable of leaving his sick wife. Thats why he is pretending you dont exist. You are dorian greys picture. You are a reminder of who he is. What he is capable of. People will ask questions. It is easier for him to have you just disappear and start anew.

I 100 percent disagree with gerda. I dont believe adults abusers deserve unconditional love. I think children do. I think a child and teenagers well being should be first priority. Their well being should not be at the expense of an abuser..oh excuse me. And mlcer.
I think its silly to project romantic notions on the suffering of mlcers.

I think your instincts in your post talking about his feelings over the dog is pretty accurate. He is a narcissist.
I think it will be easier for you to cope once you understand that he is empty inside. He is not capable of normal human compassion and empathy, so questioning his actions and responses just opens up the doors for projection.

Its really about finding joy and interests in yoir own presence and existance and ketting his go.