I am in this for the long haul - but like everyone else has experienced, I find it all so terribly painful and hurtful. To see someone I have spent more of my life with than anyone else, just dismiss our history together and to concentrate on all the tough bits, is just incredibly heart breaking. I have moments where I wonder how I'm going to get through this. I can't believe some of the words coming out of the mouth of someone I was once, so incredibly close to.
She has told me I'm a great guy and have been a great husband and father, but she has changed and just wants to go and live alone, where she knows she will be happy and believes everyone else will be as well. Classic MLCer?
In terms of what to do differently? I just don't know. I have given her time and space; I don't pursue; I don't beg, call, text, email or do anything that can be thought of as pursuing; I've made some changes financially, but that is to protect me. Agree with her decision and run with it....I can do that.
Where we live, she told me she has no grounds for divorce. It has to be based on separation. Without my consent, she needs to wait five years; Its a long time. I need to think whats best for me and the kids.
