Patience & DB / Detach or Divorce

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W has offered to help set up my new place- get black out curtains etc. Thought of buying her silverware and some things she needs in exchange. But then I re-read Cadets first post and pursuit and distance. This has happened 4-5 times already where she starts to be nice and come back and then I react and jump into it way too quickly then she flies the other way. I will set up my place myself. If she starts being nice I will continue to be distant. I will not invite her to spend time anymore or include her in activities. She can pursue me and invite me if she chooses to. No more initiating hugs... but what about texts like I hope you and D3 sleep well? She sends me that one every night I have her... I guess I just should not send texts like that.

Contact her as little as possible... and if she starts being nice again then what? Just be the nice neighbor. Trying to be the lighthouse and still have hope. Trying to be patient knowing Im not a patient person and paying her support monthly doesnt help. At least after talking to the attorney this money can be counted towards alimony if we do D. Just have to be clear in the memo of checks.

We live 30 min apart so its either we spend time together when we exchange D3 or we make plans to hang out. Really miss the girl I love that used to fall into my arms and want to be together all the time. Shes so cold and hard now. Gotta just let her go she isnt that girl anymore anyway seems like the girl I married is gone forever... going to focus on detaching. Shes gone anyway.