My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance PART 3

[ovrrnbw]

She is being disrespectful by dropping her knickers for an OM.

^^^AMEN^^^

Should I move all her stuff out of the master? I've seen this thrown out there in other threads.

Yes and no. You should, but the REASON you should do it is because you are sick and tired and fed up and done. Not because it's a technique to get her attention or bring her back. TXHubby is a classic example of what I mean, his W lived in the house while actively engaging in an A and he did everything to placate her and did his version of wimpy DB'ing until one day he woke up, said "what the hell have I become, how did I let myself end up like this" and just like that the switch flipped and he was DONE. He quit caring one whit about his W and went about the business of being awesome. He GAL'd and quit explaining anything to his W, she ceased to be a factor in his life. After a while of this SHE was the one that came back begging to reconcile. And HE was the one that didn't know if he even wanted that anymore. Eventually they did recon, but not until he made her do a lot of hard work (and she did).

So my point is I hope you do get to that point where you are just DONE with her, and you throw her stuff out and cease caring about her reaction to it. I don't think you are there quite yet.

PS, here is a link to TXHubby's summary of what worked for him:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...478#Post2748478

Thank you for the link. The "old me" would love to try this as a way to get her to come back (manipulation). But, I am not "done". So this approach would have no teeth, and would be a gamble.

I think I'm going to head down to Florida next week and do some scalloping and shrimping and fishing. I've been wanting to get down there.