Yrs the reason I am at my mother's house is because part of the bail conditions was that I was unable to return to the MH as she was a witness. As all the charges and therefore bail conditions are now lifted, I am free to return home.
So why haven't you yet? Don't keep putting this off, NOW is the time. You have every reason to now because you were legally prevented from it before but now are not. But if you keep waiting then it will get more and more difficult to justify it.
I agree with InFocus that the counseling is a waste of time and money at this point. Your money would be better spend on a DB coach.
Originally Posted By: mbe76
What about the family activities?
The children are really young (6, 4 and 2) and up until now we have still been having family days out. . .together, albeit we have been in full on parent mode and more like friends. I think this is nice guy behaviour and I need to stop- but how do I communicate this to her?
OK this is a tough one. Personally I believe in coming together for the kids to show that you love and support them despite your differences, but you also have to be careful not to allow cake-eating (IE, your W gets all the benefits of a M without the responsibilities). How often are you all doing these family activities together? If it's frequent then maybe cut back on that and try to GAL more.
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I was thinking of speaking to her and saying that "you said you wanted to save the marriage, yet I know you are still messaging him and I cannot have 3 people in our marriage, so until you can demonstrate to me you want to save the marriage, I am not going to play happy families just for the sake of the children- you know the children are my world and I would do anything for them but I cannot allow myself to continue to be disrespected by you
^^^THAT^^^ is an R talk. So no, don't do that. Speak through ACTIONS, not words.
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The only other thing, I am still living at my mums- there is technically nothing to stop me moving back home, so should I?
