Reached out to my L this morning who will review the issues W has raised and sometime soon I guess we'll discuss.
Definitely this is NOT what I wanted at all, but can't control this as seems to be for sure what she wants. I don't know what happened. I'm an imperfect man as we all are, but I would have loved her the rest of my life, protected her, provided for her and our D...I THOUGHT I was a good man, everyone I know says I am...but yet...I failed her and so here I am facing my 2nd D and my D losing her family. For what it's worth, my 1st W cheated on me, married the OM and has already D'd from him months ago. Perhaps that was a bad choice on my part more than anything.
With my current W though...I REALLY thought we could make it and I would have done whatever I could with her to address whatever it was that made her unhappy. How women can just bundle it inside of them for years and then just blast it out saying there's no hope to fix it. Why can't they SPEAK to their H when something bothers them right away. I admit or at least I guess I am not great with expressing my feelings, BUT if my W had come to me with ANY issue that bothered her, so long as she was able to convey to me the seriousness of how much it bothered her, I would have done all I can to address it. I didn't mow the grass when she thought I should, I watched football, etc but I never cheated, contributed best I knew and for sure could always have done better again I know I'm far from perfect.
Seems like once we got pregnant with D, W felt like she lost her life/identity. I honestly wonder if we didn't have my D, if we'd still be together. MC has told me there was no way for me to have foreseen the impact that D would have on my W, but to feel like to have my D I had to lose my W/MR...that is unfathomably terrible for me to think about...thing is, I'm facing that EXACT truth.
D will never have a single memorable experience do anything with both her mother and father.
I really don't know that I will ever want to date or try with another women again given the complete devastation of this loss.
Thank you all from the bottom of my heart for listening. Honestly what I'm experiencing pales in comparison to many of your stories. My heart breaks for all of the families destroyed that I read about on here. I feel guilty for not replying more to other's posts, but many times honestly what I read is so devastating that I stop reading and/or know that I couldn't provide much insight given my admittedly novice level.
I don't understand why folks give up so quickly these days on what should be one of the most sacred and treasured experiences that we as humans can have.
