River, I just wanted to add that I did not remember from your sitch that his not divorcing you is preventing you from receiving health benefits. I do not know how to advise you on the practical stuff as I have not been through that and don't know how it works or the best way to ensure that you are protected. I thought you were just asking about whether or not to respond from the emotional side of things.

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I believe I will see the bounty of the Lord in the land of the living.
Wait for the Lord with courage.
Be stouthearted, and wait for the Lord.