Yes, everyone I agree with your assessment 100 percent..I panicked,let me frustration get the best of me, and yes let her know she is in control...I'm just emotionally and mentally WORE OUT and just want to stop feeling all together...It seems like she's totally been in control from the start and I've been getting steamrolled from BD, to D papers in such a short period of time and all I've been able to do is listen, validate, not bring up our relationship and detach with all of these unanswered questions and so much that I'd like to say... This is how I ended our text message "You were never willing to explain to me why you were in such a hurry to leave our M and left me to try and fill in the blanks.. I agree, distance will help us BOTH move on with our lives" I know a WAW doesn't care about anything but herself but I wanted to communicate that I'm disappointed in how she's went about this entire thing..That has really been on my mind throughout this entire process! I now understand that I'm now completely back to STARTING ALL OVER..Once again, did this help me attain my goal, absolutely NOT!!! I gotta find something positive to cling on too..I really truly enjoyed every single thing about being Married, and it's overwhelming to me that I'm heading in to the last 1/3 of my life starting at rock bottom...I just don't seem to have the resilience to keep picking myself up and moving forward at this moment...