Else my wife thinks, I have moved on and become emotionally distant.
Relevant Rules from Sandi's 37 -
1.Do not pursue, reason, chase, beg, plead or implore! This turns the spouse completely off!
5. Do not encourage talk about the future. They don't want to think about a future with you at the moment, so stay clear of that subject.
7. Do not ask for reassurances (That is showing neediness and being clingy.) Show self-respect and self confidence.
8. Do not buy gifts to make "brownie points". (Can't buy his/her love and affection.)
12. Act "as if" you are moving on with your life with or without them and that you are going to be okay. Keep a good attitude.
17. You need to make your partner think that you have had an awakening and, as far as you are concerned, you are going to move on with your life, with or without your spouse.
24. Be patient......very, very patient. Give your spouse space and time. When you pull back, it will draw them towards you. It feels opposite of what you want to do, but it works!
32. Do not believe anything they say and 50% of what they do. Your spouse will speak in absolute negatives because he/she is hurting and scared.
33. Do not give up no matter how dark it is or how bad you feel.
37. Do not backslide from your hard earned changes
---------------------------------- Actually glad I am posting this. It is reminding me of shortcomings with the 37 rules i can improve on myself.
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
