Do not confuse DB detaching with distancing. In your particular situation, I think perhaps your W felt that you were emotionally disconnected.....or distant. Therefore, don't give the impression that you are cold, sullen, or angry. You can talk with her, conduct yourself in a polite, friendly manner. DB detaching means that you mentally detach from the emotional drama. Some H's become obsessed about the W and how to save their MR.......and it takes over their ability to think wisely. If you are too emotionally attached after the bomb drop, you will display unattractive qualities in a man.
THIS!!!!!!
Nutcrac, please note this. You have been misquoting sandi in your own thread (I'll even go so far as to say misrepresenting what sandi says). You were DISTANT FROM YOUR WIFE, that doesn't mean that detachment, and not pressuring or pursuing her won't work.
Wyoung please learn from these WISE WISE words from sandi.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
