Helena, I started reading your sitch last night until my eyes hurt. Sorry you are going through this, remember none of us are perfect. You will have to be as strong as you have ever been. One common theme I see here is that the LBS always tries to talk to the to WAW more than they need to, there really is no reason to contact unless its about kids... period.
I will continue reading you story today...
M:52 W:49 D:26 S:24 S:23 D:20 ILYBNILWY 5/28/17 Still living together W filed 1/5/18 W moved out 8/24/18 D final 9/18/20