Moving past the WAW to a stronger me Pt. 2

[hongaku]

Davide, you ARE making progress from what I can discern from your posts. Yeah, to a degree aspects of the process could be considered distractions - at least for the time being. There are such things as healthy distractions though. But as Maika said, lean into the pain when it visits you. Letting go does not mean forgetting, it means accepting.

As Nicole alludes to, your W will reach her own conclusions and they may not be what you currently expect. I agree with you that it seems like losing hope is the only way to drop the rope. However, I would say that it is more about letting go of expectations, either of reconciling or of a permanent ending of the relationship (I would suggest you stop even thinking in terms of a MR, and simply of it as a relationship period). You can still maintain an element of hope and envisioning of positive outcomes - just not an expectation.

I suppose it comes down to a sustained attitude of mindfulness, and it seems to me you are closer to that than not. Your last few posts since Benito gave his perspective are concerning. You are taking it too negatively and doubting yourself far too much. Get back on track without self-blame!