AnotherStander - just to clarify, what is it you mean by
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She's content to keep things in limbo, so if you're not then you're going to have to do all the work.
Do you mean DB'ing? Or something else?
I meant divorce. I may have misunderstood your earlier posts but I thought you were saying you were pushing forward with D in order to get her out of the house? I was just saying that normally we suggest not doing anything to help the D along, but sometimes in extenuating circumstances it's the only reasonable course of action. And I was also saying that in my opinion I don't think pushing forward with D necessarily hurts your chances of a future recon.
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Plan B then, if I really can't cope, is to consider moving out myself. I REALLY do not want to do that though. Why the hell should I?? I need to sleep on this, as now it's starting to wind me up.
Exactly, why should you. I told my ex that I wasn't going to stand in her way if she wanted to leave and pursue D, and she said she appreciated it. Then the next day she wanted to know why SHE had to leave, why shouldn't I. I told her I wasn't the one that wanted out of the M, that I was staying put and if she wanted to stay and work on the M that she was welcome to. She chose to leave. I understand you think you need to move out for your own sanity. But ask yourself this, do you think it would be better if you moved out and sat in an apartment somewhere wondering if W was in YOUR bed in YOUR house with OM? Maybe sitting back and toasting glasses of champagne to you being so kind as to give them free reign of the family home and having a nice laugh at your expense? Because those WILL be the kind of thoughts you start having.
