I was weak!!! I texted W that it hurt to not hear from her yesterday..She said "I am sorry about that, I hope you had a good day. Just trying to DISTANCE myself, so I can move on with my life. I certainly didn't do or not do anything to intentionally hurt you"...I agreed that distance will help us both move on with our lives..
That was a very kind response from her, and I think it was genuine. She was probably afraid that saying something to you would send you the wrong message and give you hope when (she thinks) you shouldn't have any.
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It seemed so much more promising a few weeks ago and now all Hope is gone..I just don't have the patience to feel this depressed and let time heal, I feel like I'm wasting my life
It's only been 2 months since BD, you are still at the starting line of this marathon. She is going to be in this mode of creating distance between you two for quite some time. You have got to be patient, this is NOT going to resolve in days or weeks or probably even months. A good friend of mine got BD'd and his W left him and immediately moved in with OM. They had a business together, ended up selling their home and the business and splitting everything and after that did not speak for 2 years. Not one call, text, email, nothing. Then she texted him asking how he was doing. That led to more texting, then dinner, then dating, then 2 years ago they moved back in together and are still happier than ever before.
There are a few things I hope people take away from that true story. One is that TIME and SPACE means exactly that. LEAVE HER ALONE. Second, these situations always take MUCH longer to resolve than people expect.
