WW in MLC in need of advice-Part 2

[Natash]

Natash,

I guess I got confused because I thought your wife was saying "I'm not dating anyone!" and you concluded that her affair didn't work out and she was starting to face the consequences of her decisions and hit rock bottom. How do you know the OM is still in the picture? Maybe he's not.

My w did tell me a few weekends ago she was not dating anyone and seemed she was struggling. I do not know the status of OM but I do know the night before D6s Bday party she called to say goodnight to the girls and when they asked Mom where she was she said watching a movie (OM name) house. This is the first time she has admitted to where she was when with him and I think she was doing it to try to get dig in on me as she was upset over not being invited to the party. It was pointe out to me this week WW removed her married status from Facebook. Childish games if you ask me, what does that accomplish?

I think your actions are going well. You do seem to be taking a very strong and cold approach though so I do think an act of kindness here-or-there might help. It doesn't mean you'd take her back easily. It just shows that you're still a good person and hopefully it'd be a reminder of what she's missing.

Thank you. A couple that is friends with my wife and I is picking my D's upearly from childcare and bringing them to my house to swim tomorrow afternoon. It is going to be like today, sunny hot and humid approaching 95 degrees. Then when I get home we will have a BBQ and campfire with smores if there s time.

I am interested in hearing from a veteran (Sandi2, Vanilla, AS, etc) if inviting my WW to the BbQ would be a bad move? I have very little interest in her being here but since i never use to coordinate a cookout I am thinking she would be able to see what she is missing out on and it would be a nice gesture on my part. I know the kids would enjoy her home but wonder if it would set them back after she leaves for the night.I believe when I have fun with my kids and their friends and parents it creates more resentment in my wife because she is missing out and doesn't see what she has done wrong. Everything wrong in her eyes is because of me is the vibe I get.

Update on journalling: This past weekend was awesome. I got my groceries doe Friday night. Saturday morning I did some yard work putting down fresh mulch around the trees and in the back yard. Then I cleaned and detailed my truck inside and out. Saturday afternoon I went to a BBQ birthday party for highschool friend down the road. The food and people was great. So was the beer, fireworks, Cornhole and campfire. The only downside was two of the young boys asked me when they saw me if my daughters were with me and I had to tell them no they were with mom. That night I got to hang out with my first best friend who I haven't hung out with in years, A year ago he ended a 5 year relationship after finding out his gf had been cheating on him often and it was refreshing to catch up with him. I also meet a really nice couple and a nice single female while there.

Today I put our Seadoo in the lake. Last year w and I talked about selling it. Then I decided for sure I would after bd and be able to have the cash if I needed it. But after today I realized I really enjoy it and I don't want to sell it to hear ww start in about half is hers or say I'm selling marital assets so I look forward to riding on the weekends I don't have my girls. Tomorrow is a BBQ, possibly a second BBQ on Tuesday. The 4th I won't have the girls but I am going to ask ww if I can pick them up via boat to be able to watch fireworks out in the lake (My parents as well as mil/fill have places on the same lake and we always have been in or at the water for the 4th since D's were born). Then Friday thru Sunday I've got a camping trip booked with my girls along with my cousin and his wife and three boys. The weather looks amazing and I'm looking forward to a fun filled relaxed week!