In my opinion, I think it would be ok to respond to her "thank you" text. Just give it a bit. But DO NOT send "have a nice night text messages. It sound like exactly what it is, you wanting her to respond. Only text her with responses. You say she knows you would take her back and you want to her to desire you, what would you tell a friend saying the same thing to you? Make her wonder!!!!
Thanks Loves nice to have a womans perspective. Sorry to hear what you are going through in your sitch.
Basically do the opposite of what I want to do - be nice to the woman I love. Maybe I will just do the opposite like that bizzaro episode of Seinfeld.
H: 33 W:32 M: 5 T: 8 D: 4 BD: 6/2017 MO: 6/2017 House sold: 6/28/18 W wants to build friendship / relationship- 9/18 Paying $ support since 7/18. Physical Reconnect- 10/18 W Starts- IC / MC - 10/18
She is always texting me about our daughter when I have her. Wanting to know how she is doing I sent a pic of her doing a pony ride and video of zipline. Did not say much just told her what we did. Last thing she said was I Am so glad she had a fun day. I was going to say always or of course. But maybe just nothing.
H: 33 W:32 M: 5 T: 8 D: 4 BD: 6/2017 MO: 6/2017 House sold: 6/28/18 W wants to build friendship / relationship- 9/18 Paying $ support since 7/18. Physical Reconnect- 10/18 W Starts- IC / MC - 10/18
Opinions on dating? W and I have had no sexual contact in about 13 months. We have both been with other partners and dated. 10 months ago she was serious in a rebound relationship and told me I should get on dating apps. I started dating. I should not have listened to her but I was a mess at the time. Had not read DB or DR NMMNG etc. I have not been dating in months but now we are in different homes and different towns.
Yes I want my W back. But there is nothing showing that she wants me or us. We are cordial but it just seem so over unless she has some big oh sh*t moment. I am Having a great weekend with my daughter. Thanks all!
H: 33 W:32 M: 5 T: 8 D: 4 BD: 6/2017 MO: 6/2017 House sold: 6/28/18 W wants to build friendship / relationship- 9/18 Paying $ support since 7/18. Physical Reconnect- 10/18 W Starts- IC / MC - 10/18
I feel ya on this one. I think everyone prolly thinks the same thing, if they should date or not. I have been upset enough at points and thought of doing it. For me, and my opinion only, I say DO NOT. That I'd just me though. Maybe others would suggest it and it might give confidence, GAL etc.
It could blow up in your face also. Are you going to do it for yourself, or to make her jealous?
I would date for myself not to make her jealous I would not even want to talk to her about it. I got on a dating app last night of course I see W is on there. I texted her how is ____ going for you. Happy swiping. Probably a mistake and should of said nothing. As I keep saying a big part of me just feels this is done. She says being with me is not an option or she can not because of anxiety and her being traumatized
I wish it was different. New neighbors are hanging in the court wed for the 4th going to invite W to join our daughter and I. Maybe she will want to hang out now that we are living separate. Or maybe I should just talk to her as litttle as possible to help with detach GAl etc.
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H: 33 W:32 M: 5 T: 8 D: 4 BD: 6/2017 MO: 6/2017 House sold: 6/28/18 W wants to build friendship / relationship- 9/18 Paying $ support since 7/18. Physical Reconnect- 10/18 W Starts- IC / MC - 10/18
Did, my advice is to always wait until after D is final. And even though only if you are emotionally ready. Nothing worse than dating someone who is still in love with someone else.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
H: 33 W:32 M: 5 T: 8 D: 4 BD: 6/2017 MO: 6/2017 House sold: 6/28/18 W wants to build friendship / relationship- 9/18 Paying $ support since 7/18. Physical Reconnect- 10/18 W Starts- IC / MC - 10/18
