Its hard to see our children struggle . When H and I were having major problems many years ago, we were in mediation discussing custody and the mediator looked at him and said you do understand that shes divorcing YOU. Not her children. Right?Thats always stuck with me and I wonder if maybe it might be helpful to say something like that to your son? I also wonder if maybe he feels obligated to be angry with her bc of the religious opposition to divorce? Neither of those are his battles to fight. His mother clearly wants a relationship with him and maybe he needs to give himself permission to continue to love her, spend time with her and grow their relationship despite his opinion that divorce is wrong. Just a few of my thoughts. I hope he finds some peace soon for his own sake.
M: 43, H: 44 Married 18 yrs, Together 26 yrs S17, D15, D8, S6 Still living in MH
. When H and I were having major problems many years ago, we were in mediation discussing custody and the mediator looked at him and said you do understand that shes divorcing YOU. Not her children. Right?Thats always stuck with me and I wonder if maybe it might be helpful to say something like that to your son? I also wonder if maybe he feels obligated to be angry with her bc of the religious opposition to divorce? Neither of those are his battles to fight. His mother clearly wants a relationship with him and maybe he needs to give himself permission to continue to love her, spend time with her and grow their relationship despite his opinion that divorce is wrong. Just a few of my thoughts. I hope he finds some peace soon for his own sake.
