Hello everyone I am looking for advice. My kids have been staying at woman number 4. Now my XH is on woman number 4 in the space of 3 years and 2 months since we have separated. XH has only been dating this lady for a little less than two months. This lady has a cat and my youngest is allergic to cats and it triggers asthma attack for her. I would like to write to my HX asking him to stop introducing our children to his partners so early in the relationship as I don't feel that after two months you really know a person. And I would also like for him to be aware of the dangers of our kid having an asthma attack as he has never dealt with one before. I don't want to come across as jealous but I am worried of the impact of all these women passing and going in my kids life. What kind of message does it show to my girls that as women they can de disposed of as when it pleases a man. Am I too old fashion as I feel that he should at least wait 6 months so he is sure? The girls told me that he is living with her!
All I can see is a recurrent pattern for XH he meets someone quickly (2 months between each woman), moves in very quickly, then a month after our children are introduced. This is how it happens with me. I can see XH falls in love very easily but I am concerned about my kids.
My major concern is not him having a new GF is that he has a tendency not to take our children seriously when they aren't well and I have been to hospital several times to have her asthma attack treated. I just want him to realise that he is potentially putting our daughter's life at risk. I also know that if I text him he will think I'm jealous and I will be told that it's not my business.
What kind of advice could you give me? I'm already doing the 24 hours wait as if it had been the old me I would have texted him straight away.
