You sound like you are doing very well, walking a good path. This is a difficult journey and can be pretty exhausting. You are almost two years at this, that shows a lot of strength. I am glad you found this board, it can revive you and help you find reserves you may not even know you had. The folks here are good kind people with a wealth of knowledge.
You have definitely figured out your W is In MLC. She has quite a list of signs, and of course the body snatching alien residing in her. I am with you on what hurts the most - the fact that she does not seem to care about me.
I really like the way you phrased that *does not seem to care*, instead of *does not care*. Seem - makes a world of difference to how you view this. I think you get it; somewhere deep inside her she does care. She is just so mixed up she cannot handle it and has buried it for the time being (along with a great many other things).
I am wondering what you meant when you stated - I have no trust. Do mean with W? Or is there now a lack of trust in general? I have some trust issues now, with mistrust bleeding into other relationships. I am curious about, and would like to hear, your perspective.
My perspective on your question - Is there a way back to a loving and intimate relationship with an MLC wife?
In my viewpoint - Yes.
I believe there is more than *a way back*, there are *many ways back*. There is more than just one road to reconciliation. There is not just one unseen mythical path with unknown twists and puzzles that need to be completed in a certain order. There are many paths, just as unseen, but more forgiving on the steps. No single thing you do will drive her away forever or win her back instantly - nothing you do matters and everything you do matters.
The really hard part is that there are two paths that need to converge, yours and hers. You know you can only control you, her actions are a lot more random. So you work on you, be the best you will be, detach, gal, let go, and give it over to a higher power. It is your best chance.
So, is there a way back? Yes, and I do hope she finds it.
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
