All, I really need input from anyone who's reading. I don't have much time to write but my husband called on Friday and said he was terminated by his employer. They agreed to call it a resignation but clearly it was based on unspecified performance problems. There's no severance pay. Just half a paycheck.
My husband must have called me immediately after it happened because he was still in shock. He said he'd look for temporary work while he finds a new job. He said it takes a few months to get credentialed at any new hospital.
I didn't hear from my husband again on Friday and yesterday he called twice but I was with my family. I don't know yet if he'll even be able to pay anything towards our costs in the coming month.
I'm fortunate in the sense that I have the option to switch to a full-time salaried position with one of my employers right away if needed, but due to the commute times in this area it basically means being away from my daughter from 8:00 AM until 6:00 PM on most weekdays. I know this is reality for many parents but it'll be a hard transition for us. I didn't my daughter to pay the price for my husband's bad actions.
Anyway the important point here is that if my husband doesn't wake up now, I don't think he ever will. If I were him I'd be thinking, "I lost my job. I lost my family. I'm living alone in a big house I can't afford and I mindlessly spent all the money I had. Maybe it's time to fix my life."
If he doesn't see that he has a problem then I don't know what hope there will be. As I understand, it's not that common for physicians to get fired. If it happened once it could happen again, so I'm thinking it's better to be completely self-reliant financially although I'll never be able offer my daughter the same quality of life as if my husband and I were both working ad living together.
I want to ask my husband questions about what he's planning and make suggestions but given everything else happening I'm thinking to just consider him to be no one in my life at the moment and start working full time.
On the other hand, my husband may find a new job quickly and I may be able to keep working part-time and spending more time with our daughter.
It's a tough choice. What do you all think?
I don't think it'll be constructive to say what a bad person my husband is or how things he's said or done are bad. It'd be most helpful to determine how to figure out the best way to proceed.
