Thanks Lonewlf. Your right,I may never know. Still doesnt hurt any less. M42 W38 T16 M9 D3 D7
I'm trying to disconnect and validate. We are living in the same house after BD, but in limbo. I see that time is my ally in that. I've definatly had a bad case of NGS, always thought I was helping things by doing stuff, and giving more. I see now it was setting me up for failure. I never tolerated that kind of behaviour from anyone else. But gave her "special" leway. Live and learn. Thanks for the encouragement.
