WAW or WW? What should I do to save my MR.

[Wyoung]

Son and I have traveled abroad for a week now. I did leave a gift and a short letter before I left and she found it and accepted it. She texted me saying she received the gift and letter, and thanked me for making the effort.

Now it's been a week, the contact was minimal. She checked us when we just arrived the destination through video chat. And then text me saying it seems we are doing okay and she will start enjoying her "single life" (she used the quote). Then the contact has been very minimal. she doesn't even check about our S as if she doesn't even miss the S at all. She doesn't contact her parents much either, which has been very abnormal relative to the past. She seems to be isolating herself from everyone. I keep reminding myself that I need to have infinite patience and give her time and space, which has been so hard. I thought being away will help me to calm, but every night, I literally got waked up by the pain in my hurt. I miss her so much.

I have been wondering about two things. (1) should I text her and let her know that S is doing great and hope she is enjoying her "single life"? This will make her more comfortable and show that I am supportive. On the other hand, I was hoping us being away will maybe remind her of the family time, so I should not initiate contact. (2) Is it common that a WAW will show coldness and distance not only to the H but also to the child (and her parents)? I can understand the parents part, because her parents are very against her mindset and she sensed tremendous pressure. However I can never understand how she can manage to leave our S behind.