Okay, now that I've had time to calm down a bit, let me try to go over what happened in a more sane order, just to clear things up.

First, understand that other than W asking me to take S to his appointment Wednesday, and relaying the information about his new appointment, we have had no contact. Later that evening, she texted me stating that she will take him to the appointment herself, and asking if I will respect her wishes and stay home that day.

I did not respond.

Thursday morning, I received a text from W stating that she does not want me to contact her in any way. Around the same time, she picked up S from the sitter. I was home, but I didn't know she had done this because I was busy doing stuff around the house indoors.

Later that afternoon (before I knew she had picked S up), I went downtown to the DC's office to try to find out how to submit an FOIA request for records on her cop friend, because I believe he may have used his work access to try to dig up information on me, spy on my social media, etc. Why? Because ALL of them have been blocked from my social media accounts, and I felt like somehow things were still being leaked to her. Not that I was posting anything crazy, but still...just a hunch. And I've worked in IT, so I know it's completely possible.

The lady at the DC's office called the constables office. I had explained what I was there and why I wanted to do that, but she misunderstood (probably wasn't listening very closely). She told the person over the phone "we have a customer that wants to file a complaint, he says his wife is having an affair with an officer..." so I immediately spoke up and said "no...not an affair, they are just friends". She did NOT relay that over the phone though, so the constable's office only got one side. They gave me the information I needed, and I left.

I sat in my car in a parking lot downtown for a while, because I didn't want to be at my place when W picked up S, because I am trying to stay away from her and give her space.

About 5:30 pm, I called the sitter to ask if S had been picked up, because I wanted to make sure the coast was clear to go home. She then told me that he had been picked up early that morning, and for some reason W was panicking.

The panicked picking up of S happened BEFORE I even went to the DC's office, so those things aren't related.

Friday morning, two constables went to W's apartment to find out who I was, and make sure I wasn't a threat (which is strange, because I clearly wasn't doing anything sketchy, just trying to figure out how to protect myself in a legal manner). She talked to them, they recommended that she get a CTW against me so that there's a layer of protection, just in case. I know she told them that I was not violent, so that didn't seem to make sense, but I guess that was logical to the constables and to her.

I didn't know they went to her first.

Then they came to my house, issued the CTW. My landlord (who has known W longer than I have) came down when she saw the constables at my apartment. I explained the entire situation to them, and how it was a misunderstanding between the DC's office and their office, and they explained that they wanted to investigate to make sure I wasn't any kind of danger to anyone...which W had already told them that I was not (even though she's told family and friends that she thought I was for some unknown reason).

I explained to the constables that the CTW was actually going to violate my parental access rights, and they understood, and advised that I get an attorney. I signed the warning, got my copy, and started wondering how this happened.

I had assumed she was told by her friend who is a peace officer to do this, because they've been pushing for her to leave me for a long time. Apparently, that wasn't the case. BUT, she did listen to bad advice from the constables who weren't aware of the standing court orders in place from the time she filed the divorce stating that you can't prevent access to children if there are no orders in place preventing that access.

I still don't know what caused her to pick up S from the sitter and I don't know what the panic is all about. But at least I know that the CTW was ill-informed advice that she chose to follow, and now there's a mess.


I honestly don't know anything else about the situation...that's all I have, but I hope that this makes a bit more sense. I was pretty upset the last couple of days when I wrote this originally, because it felt like W and her friends were trying to find ways to trap me. I still think that they are. But I hope this makes it a bit clearer as to what went on.