Moving past the WAW to a stronger me Pt. 2

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I do not think Benito is saying that the real progress you have made is negated, I think he is just saying you are not quite there yet.

I applaud your progress and aspire to be where you are at, to be honest. I intellectually know what I need to do, but am fully aware that I have not made a terrible amount of progress detaching. I am doing a lot of the right things, but I know all the same that I am not there yet emotionally by a long shot. You may not be quite there either, Davide, but I can tell by reading your posts that you are well and truly on your way there and you just need to stay on the path you are on.

Feelings are not really controllable, and learning to let go of a love partner and find acceptance that you may never reconcile are extremely difficult concepts to truly embrace. I know it is possible, but I have yet to believe I can do it myself. You do not need to doubt your progress, and I think Benito was actually just trying to encourage you to take the final emotional leaps that will be necessary to ultimately find peace within yourself and be genuinely open to both the possibility of the relationship being over with finality and the possibility that your W will find her own way back into your life. And you will know without an ounce doubt that you will be perfectly fine either way. Can you say that now?