Gordie, I think the best thing we can do for ourselves is to be selfish. By that I mean focus entirely on ourselves and leave the MLCr to their own journey.
The truth is the old relationship is dead.
Frankly, if it had been working for any of us we wouldn't be here, so that's not a bad thing.
The great unknown is what the new relationship will become, what you are co-creating together. In order to co-create, there needs to be someone to create with.
In the absence of that, create yourself. You're doing a good job of that but I'd like to hear more about what you're doing separate from the marriage and kids. What GALs are you actively pursuing?
Life is short. How do you want to live your life? Forget about wife and her process/journey and focus on yourself. I hope I don't sound harsh because I really think you're doing a great job and there is incremental progress, as to be expected. But that's really my point - if we focus on the progress of the MLCr we will lose our minds. It's like watching paint dry or grass grow. Much better to note and move on with GALs.
I hope I'm making sense. xoxoxoxo
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
