I'm having a good day today. I get Fridays off so that always a happy time. Lol. I'm feeling the urge to reach out to him, but as I have read so many times on here, DONT.
It's been almost a week. I feel that he is prolly wondering what it up and I don't want to mess that up by texting him.
This is correct. When you do the opposite of what you usually do, the WAS will take notice. You said it has been a week tomorrow, right? He is going to start wondering what is going on. Eventually his curiosity will get he best of him and he will initiate contact.
Remember, mystery is good. When he asks what you've been doing, you say you've been busy. If he pushes, just change the subject "So why are you calling/texting?" Keep it business like. Remember, treat him like a cashier at the store. Polite. Responsive. But not overly sharing. The less info he gets the better. It will stoke the curiosity and mystery.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
The earlier part of this week was rough. Whew. But I'm feeling good that I have held out. Kinda proud of myself actually.
I still know in my heart that he will be back. I do have my doubts a lot of times. But I'm working on it.
Be sure to prepare yourself for either eventuality. That's what DBing is all about. To provide the best chance of R, but also to help the LBS to move on in case R doesn't happen.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
I know. That's the hardest pill to swallow unfortunately. And I do understand tat at this point it could be likely. But, I can't shake the feeling that he will be back. I almost kick myself for some earlier mistakes I have made. But maybe that is what this is about. For me to become a better me. For myself, for the kids, and for hopefully him.
His sister sent me a pic in a group text with his mom. I still speak with them regarding the baby and we are all friendly. Within 5 minutes he texted me the same pic. I finished texting with his mom and sister and then responded to his textvaclil while later with a sniley face. He responded back but I did not respond to his last text.
Kinda nice to know he thought of me and sent me he pic after they sent it to him.
Welp. After reading about everyone else today being upset or feeling let down, it's my turn.
I sent a pic of the baby to him. It was a cute pic of the baby so we texted back and forth for a bit. Then he asked to pick him up tomorrow. I'm not sure if it makes sense when I say this, but whenever he does this it makes me soooo sad. Like it's sooooo final. I just texted back as friendly as possible. I keep trying to keep the faith and I still do feel in my heart that he loves me and will be back, but it always seems like doubts come creeping back in and make me think I'm crazy.
I've been doing so good this week but that just took the wind out of me. I just don't understand why this is happening. It just seems like the longer he is gone the more over it is. Am I crazy?
Time isn't what it's about. However he still has to much power over your emotions. You need to detach. That's the only way you'll be emotionally stable no matter what he does or doesn't do.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
I'm trying my hardest but the truth is I do no want to. I'm so in love with him and I just want him to come back. I wish I could not get all emotional but it happens.
Another thing happened. Someone contacted me earlier this eeek saying that they were fairly certain that he was seeing someone. I was taken aback by this. I really do not feel that he is. Well, I asked him. He said that he is not.
I feel crazy. I feel like I know he will be back, but am I crazy to feel like that? Is it just me in denial?
Loves you cannot control him - He will do what he wants to do. you need to step back focus on you and your child. Let him take this journey by himself to figure out what he wants and needs. Give him time and space. hopefully what will happen is he will feel the grass is greener on the other side - but with some self reflection he will see if he watered and maintained his grass it would be just as green if not GREENER. He can run away from you but once you give him time and space and you are no longer there to blame - then hope fully he will put his efforts into reflecting and healing himself. Good Luck!
M51 w50 T-20Yrs M-16Yrs S15- mad at W for not trying and giving up 1 Awesum dog BD 10/31/17 separate rooms 02/08/18 wife moved out 05/17/18
