So where to start? Been married just shy of 10years, but together for 16. Just had the BD about 26 days ago. I had the usual NGS reaction. However stumbled on to this website and it seems to have gotten my attention. I'm trying the LRT, still trying to disconnect and GAL.
I'm not entirely sure if my wife is a WAW or WW. I assume WW since this all happened after I confronted her about having "feelings" for another guy. Our marrige has struggled for years. It got really rough when the kids arrived. Shes said in the past, if we didnt have kids she would have left me. I'm sure its our emotional connection that has issues. She suffers from depression, and when she gets in that state, we definatly disconnect.
Not sure other than the usual advice given, what I can do. I'm trying to stay strong for my 2 D's but its tough.
If she leaves, I'm sure we'll lose the house and need to uproot the kids. I'm angry at her selfishness. But have tried to move to the place where I know its not under my control. Not easy. Shes turned into "party girl" overnight. Out sometimes 4 and 5 nights a week. Drinking and being with some unsavory people.
Most of them are wanting to sleep with each others spouses, some in open marriages etc. She asked me if I could be in an open marriage, since she feels shes now polyamrous.
I do love her, but cant live like that. Been to the lawyer yesterday, and I'm pretty screwed. The laws here are very biased, but I should get joint custody. Thats what really matters.
So to sum it up I guess, is I think shes been a WAW for a while and changed into a WW? Thoughts?
