NC,

It seems a major hurdle you need to clear is believing everything your wife is telling you.

"Believe nothing they say and half of what they do"

you need to assume she is lying to you man, and i can tell you based off of the things you have posted that she said, she IS lying to you. Often, and blatantly. She tells you
"i dont plan on dating for 2-3 years" and you believe that?

M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4
All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18
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2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD
2 Major breakups.
2 Rebounds