It sounds to me like you are taking the right course of action for you. I think you have to be prepared for her to refuse to leave NO MATTER WHAT her L says, which I suspect is exactly what is going to happen. She's content to keep things in limbo, so if you're not then you're going to have to do all the work. Normally in DB'ing terms we say not to help the D along, but if you just can't take having her there all the time then this is what you have to do. Personally I don't see it hurting chances for a future recon.
Originally Posted By: 40free
I just keep telling myself this is for the best, I deserve better, she doesn't deserve me, the kids need me to be strong, and I will fine. There are lots of great people on this forum that are living proof that there is a good life on the other side waiting, and they are a real inspiration. That's what I am working towards. I'll get there, one day.. just need to keep at it.
