So I have been reflecting and praying and even if 1% of this mess my marriage is in I need to own it. What would you think if you received a letter like this?
Dear S I am sorry for the way I may have disrespected you I didn’t understands the way my words tone and actions may have hurt you so deeply. I realize how showing you respect is so important. I will not try and justify it. I realized god put you in my life for a reason, I needed your comfort your counsel and your input in my life through the years. I also see how my fear, caring, and concern for your choices could be taken as trying to control you.Thank you for this gift of time that allowed me to heal my health, my relationship with god and reflect and let go of past. I am optimistically moving forward and thrilled to discover new interest and adventure! No matter what happens I made my final choice years ago and I choose you for better or worse. I have a redeeming love for you always and trying to understand and respect you are going through something too and need space alone.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.