Nut,

First of all if you are going to argue with everyone. Please do it on your own thread and stop hijacking Ballast's thread.

Secondly, Please simply consider this.

Several people are telling you the same thing, and you are the one telling all of them (us) that we are wrong. When that happens in other situations in real life, it is 99.9% of the time that the 1 person claiming several other people are wrong, is in fact the one who is wrong.

Choose your own path and methodology with DBing.
I can ensure you the path you discuss is a path to ruination of your MR. You want to know why i know?

I did the exact stuff you are talking about, all of it.
I am on the FAST TRACK to full blown Divorce,
My WW and I are in complete NC, i have a TRO against me and there is NO HOPE of recovery of MR for me.

On your own head sir.

But seriously, leave Ballasts thread alone unless you are discussing HIS sitch, go post on yours please.

M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4
All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18
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2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD
2 Major breakups.
2 Rebounds