Can I really do this #4

[Dtrmned]

AS.

Job offer is important. After the financial crisis in 2015 and losing everything, just for my own self-esteem and getting back to being a better provider for my children (we are not destitute and I am working now just not close to the level we were or my capabilities). Is it as important as keeping my MR and family together. Not even close. BUT, if W sees me being more successful and moving on, this is good in the GAL category. I am not dwelling on the past loss and my anger from that is gone.

My thoughts is that I have always been happy where I am as long as my family was there. Family makes a house a home. We have moved a few times over the years and always had the adventure and fun along with the exhaustion of moving. Problem was, the last time we moved is when we lost our home so it wasn't a good adventure.

I know at present she wants out. I can't afford to pay for 2 homes (it would be 3 for a short time with the lease termination). She doesn't have a job so she would have to live with me. Sandi had mentioned this earlier in proposing it to her and then commented that it might seem very pressuring to get back into the MR as the only choice. BUT, why would I pay to have us all move to a new city, pay for her to live with me and the kids (again no job, income and I can't pay for everything)? Wouldn't this be totally enabling her to cake eat all along the way, bide her time and bail when she wants? My thoughts are that she would have to move at least towards the possibility of working on our MR because the last thing you need during a move (and they are so expensive anyways) is to have bad emotions and fighting involved. If we are all on the same page, moving forward, fresh start, etc. That would be totally different.