Also I STILL DO NOT KNOW if my W has OM! Although from what I've learned basically that does not change how I approach my sitch.
That's not so.
A wayward is VERY different to a walk away. Very different.
If your W is a walk away stick very strictly to classic DB. You work on you. You do not go NC but remain friendly neighbour.
DON'T EVER treat a walk away as if she was a wayward. It will confirm your jerk status, accusing her of cheating when she isn't.
Assess why she is walking and resolve it, and MC can work with walkaways as long as the MC is pro M.
V
I whole heartedly agree with Vanilla here, unlike some forum members who disagree regarding WAW vs WW. I am in a very similar situation with my WAW stitch
A WW wife is a cheater, highly manipulative and can go to any extent to hurt LBH coz she can blame LBH due to OM physical and emotional support.
However a WAW is usually a broken hearted, low self esteem woman who is in deep depression. They just want to be alone and peaceful and continue with life. The feel abandoned like my wife.
I made a mistake of going conplete NC / Dark and it has definitely created more apathy and disgust towards me. She may never cone out of it. She feels i sinply abandoned her in her own miseries. You should give her space but the space should not be so much that it creates vacuum between the two of you. Initially when separated both of you will be very angry. Going NC for a few weeks is acceptable. But should not be prolonged. When she contacts, and still not interested, its your duty to follow up and slowly get back showing a confident personality and firm voice. WAW will really see if this is pursuit or a true effort.
M(35) F(35) T(6) M(6) BD 10/25/2017 S 3/12/2018 LRT 4/3 D Served 4/30 D Signed (Me) 5/1 D filed with Court 5/21 D Final 7/6 Moving on with life and doing lot of GAL since 7/6 :-)
