Thanks V, I will look up high conflict institute and educate myself if it seems to pertain to my sitch. In my case, I have been managing most of the finances, I have run the household, made investments so I am actually aware of where each penny is, we have different accounts but there is nothing that he can hide from me there. We were a couple involved since college days so we have shared everything since we each started making any money at all. So I am not worried that he can cheat me financially. Custody is an emotional topic for me as a mother so keeping strong during that discussion is a challenge for me. I have a nursing infant and a just potty trained toddler, they are not independent in any sense of the word. Plus the whole breakdown of the MR is another sore point like for everyone else here. But I can only get through this if I keep emotions out. WAH will obviously want to discuss details before mediation, unless we reach some agreement I will not even go to the mediation. The only reason I am entertaining this is to see if I can get something good out of this mess for my daughters instead of fighting it in court. He is being quiet and kind since he set up the mediation appointment, he is worried I may not go to mediation if he irritates me too much so there is peace right now. How the WASs can become such selfish slithering snakes its hard to imagine.
