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[Jlh]

So lately H is acting less like Bizarro Husband and more pleasant. Per a conversation a few weeks ago, he knew that our son and I are going to be in a town parade for the Fourth of July and out of the blue a few days ago, he asked what my plans were for the fourth. I reminded him that the parade is that day and he offered to wait for us at the end of the parade to take us back to my car across town!

I thanked him at first and told him that I didn't want to take up any of his time in case he had plans and he had the saddest look on his face so I kept it polite and told him that I'd take a look at the email for the parade info and get back to him on the specific times. The next day I told him that I'd take him up on his offer and he had a small smile and said, "Okay, okay that works I can wait for you, I don't mind, I don't mind."

He actually let out three belly laughs when we discussed our son a few days before that rather than his usual clamming up and acting defensive and cold. I don't know if this is the tunnel starting to see a glimmer of light at the end but the vibes seem better.

My therapist reminded me that he gives mixed signals and we're in a limbo but her words kind of brought me down a bit. It feels in my gut that he's lightening up but she made it sound like he is just throwing out more mixed signals. It feels like she may not be a therapist who believes in divorce busting and she told me to just stay in the limbo part of this is I'm comfortable with it.

I don't know if this is proper to do, but in order for me to not take his mixed signals to heart, I just imagine that he is still talking to the other woman until I hear otherwise. We never discuss her but it feels like he may not be talking to her anymore from how he acts now but I could be totally wrong.