D18 is the one I am worried about. She still is lashing out at my W and doesn't seem to be very happy with me lately. She has always been the one kid who migrated towards me over her mother and we have always had a very good R. Lately she has withdrawn from me. I've tried getting her to talk, but she won't. I'm just going to have to give her more time.
This is the main reason your W needs to come clear, apologize and make amends in front of you and your kids. Even then, it will take a while before your Ds forgive her. But if she refuses, she risks ruining her R with them permanently. She has to understand this.
