Can I really do this #4

[Dtrmned]

Thanks Sandi!
Again your insight is greatly appreciated.
Cheeseless tunnels is correct.

I was thinking in my head more about the commitment prior to the move, but I see your thought on how this can improve our R (whether we remain together or not) and the overall family psyche as to looking forward to the new "lease on life" for everyone!

I will get out of my head and hopefully out of my way. This is an exciting time and opens a ton of possibilities! You are so correct in that I can bring the dark cloud over it, or be in charge of the clouds parting for our future. Not saying it would be all roses and rainbows, or that we would end up together, but the longer she is in our bed, the longer she is at home and if we all move together, I agree the better chance things have of us working as a team and eventually her seeing me as a spouse she would never want to leave!