Thanks Nicole, Steve and V. the advice I get here always helps me think through things.
Nicole and Steve, I dont know about WAH coming back after D, he is leaving at such a critical time, BD soon after baby was born seems like too much to come back from once he leaves. I feel even if he comes around the guilt in him will be too much to face it but well again I am just trying to analyze and read into the unknown. V, WAH's behaving this way for the last 3 months since BD, what I dont get is his complete change in personality, if he was a systemic abuser wouldnt it show in some form for 15 years, he really did have the patience of a saint before or rather he was a dormant volcano. If he did want control, wouldnt the obvious thing to do is actually stay at home and exercise control instead of wanting a quick D and escape? Understanding this is just so hard and almost impossible. But either way, I am enabling it by being patient. As you pointed out I think I freeze when this happens, now it is not so new anymore so I should start going back to being my original strong self I was pre BD
