Walk Away Spouse after 6 yrs - Part 2

[Nutcrac]

Nut,

I'm going to start off with WOW. You showed up to your W door with one of the most selfish declarations I have seen in a long time. You didn't validate any of her feelings and you most likely pushed her further away.

You showed and told her a bunch of what you wanted and why. The whole time she told you she didnt want what you wanted. She's telling she doesn't want the M and you essentially told her you do. That old M you and her had is dead and she has expressed that as strongly as possible. You didnt validate a single feeling. You are on this board telling us you know your W but you dont even know what evil ways she thinks you have. This means you dont know why your W is resenting you. Have you 180ed any of what she said she didnt like?

The only thing I see, is a selfish man that don't know why his W has left and has the nerve to balme it on her stubbornness. You are the stubborn one!

What you essentially did was try to make a person do something they don't want to do, it was a form if manipulation. It's like giving a person that don't want or like coffee an option to have a cup of coffee. She tells you I don't like coffee anymore, and you have just told her, well take two more months to decide if you don't want or like this coffee.

You need to read up on validation, do alot of self reflection and be honest with yourself. You don't know your W, because if you did you would not have to ask her "what evil side".

I'm not being mean, I'm being honest. You need to take a step back and sit in a quiet room and reflect on the type of person you are. Because what I read from what you did yesterday was from a selfish man.

Everybody is entitled to their opinion. I am not saying anything wrong. Yes I may be selfish. At this time, I really dont care if my wife has to be with me or Not. So Let me ask you this - If she agrees to the 2 months reconciliation despite knowing that after 2 months, I still have the same options as of today, she gave me a choice despite knowing that I am a selfish man? If she doesn't give that option its a different story.
And regarding validation, I did validate her. I said you are still entitled to your divorce opinion. However I am not. Common. You cannot simply allow your wife to have everything. You have the right to fight her for certain things. She is entitled to her feelings. I did not dismiss that and I heard it!
Regarding the "evil side", she is entitled to it again. She does not trust me and she things only negative and gets that weird feelings about me. And lets say if your wife had come and told you the same - you have an evil side. Would you simply know by that phrase what evil side you have? Its not easy as you think.
And this is nothing selfish about me. I am still strong and confident and It doesn't really matter if my wife comes back or not. If she does not come back, its her problem, her headache. Not mine. I will move on and so does she with her lone sufferings.
So lets take this as a test and let me know what you think according to you would be the outcome? Do you think she will agree to stall for 2 more months? Or she will simply say no and convert it to a divorce process? My gut feeling is despite her hate towards me, she will choose the first option!