Nutcrac, she only agreed to the 2 months because she fears for opposition to dissolution. If 2 more months gets her the easy way out then she is willing. Dance with not treating you bad. She is being peaceful to get that she wants. dissolution. How are you not seeing that?!?
Motion to reconcile can be extended after 2 months as well or again converted to divorce. I will wait for her decision after talking to her lawyer. So there would have been 2 scenarios here -
1) If I had not discussed this decision with her, it would have simply converted to divorce - worst outcome, which is what many of you suggested.
2) Now she has an opportunity to extend for 2 more months. Because I discussed with her. She can accept it or deny it. I have a fair feeling that she may accept it despite not knowing what the future outcome is.
Notice from your update:
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Me: if you say no, i will withdraw my dissolution consent and it will get converted to a normal divorce proceedings. After 2 months we have an option either to dissolve or get this converted to divorce again.
THIS PROVES MY POINT.
She wants dissolution over D (because it is easier). You told her if she didn't agree to the 2 months then she would have to change from dissolution to D.
Therefore she is considering the 2 months ONLY to eventually get the dissolution, instead of the D. Notice in your update she was pushing to get assurances from you that if she agreed to the 2 months that at the end of it you would agree to dissolution. You didn't give her that assurance BUT she know she still has a chance at dissolution if she agrees to the 2 months.
So nothing you said changes what I said. She only agreed to consider it because she wants the easy way out: dissolution. And if waiting 2 more months is what that takes she is willing to wait.
The point nutcrac is that do not take her willingness to consider it, or even if she eventually agrees to it, as her being open to R. You forced her to do it.
Again, for the last time since you don't want to hear it, the better option was just to remove your consent for dissolution and let her deal with it. Either she'd push forward with D, or she'd cancel everything hoping to convince you to dissolution at some point in the future.
Can I ask what nationality you are? Your English is unconventional. You also have a bit of a biased opinion of women. You keep talking about women being stubborn and prideful. Last I checked women didn't have a monopoly on that. In fact, you yourself are showing yourself to be very prideful and stubborn. Just saying.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
