Divorce is not the worst outcome. Trying to prevent it and hanging around in limbo is. Recon can happen after D. Infact we have stories here where that's been the case.
You're trying to avoid something and in the process making it worse. Best thing is to give her what she wants and figure your stuff out. Fighting or delaying it worsens your situation and your standing in her eyes. Now you're an adversary - not the position you want to be in.
