Newbie In Need Of Guidance #3

[rminer]

You are right, the decision was clear before, but now not so much.


I know I do want her back, but I have always told myself that would also depend on her reaction when I confront. If she denies and continues to lie it will make it very hard to trust her again. If she comes clean, then we have a solid starting point.


Confronting will reopen wounds that are starting to heal for both of us, but will give me piece of mind. I can't decide if that piece of mind is for my ego, letting her know she really didn't pull one over on me, or is it something I need to move forward.


I definitely have some thinking to do on this.


As far as the kids go, that is going to be a lot trickier. D21 seems good with my W after their fight/discussion about a month ago. S24 I think is good too because he stayed out of it. D15 and S8 are on their way to forgiving because of her changes over the past month and a half. I have talked to them, as I have said in the past, and told them that they need to do what they can to maintain their R with my W, so I wasn't going to interfere.

D18 is the one I am worried about. She still is lashing out at my W and doesn't seem to be very happy with me lately. She has always been the one kid who migrated towards me over her mother and we have always had a very good R. Lately she has withdrawn from me. I've tried getting her to talk, but she won't. I'm just going to have to give her more time.